I found the secret. Wait......What??

I hate the way my mind works sometimes.

I was reading a great book last night, (Nineteen Minutes) and in it was a saying -

There are two ways to achieve happiness. Either change your reality, or lower your standards.

While reading this, I thought to myself, wow, that really is true, and kept reading away. But my mind kept wandering back to this, and I reread it again and again.

While it may be true, I find so many things wrong with this statement. First of all, if it was so easy to just change your reality, wouldn't everyone be happy? It makes me think of the movie The Pursuit of Happiness, and how he tries so hard, and gets suckerpunched everytime.

And second....if you lower your standards, aren't you giving up, settling for less, saying you aren't worth what you thought you were? How is that going to make you happy??

For me, I know what I want, and I will not settle for less. I am a what if type of person. But then I started thinking about other people I know, and realized that some people are like this.
For example, there is another single mom at the daycare that Brody goes too. We are COMPLETE OPPOSITES. She has a two and a half year old little girl, with one guy, and a 5 month old baby boy, with another. She was with the baby's father for maybe 4 months before realizing she was pregnant, and they were broken up before he was born. She has pretty much said to me that she was trying to get pregnant of purpose, because his family has money and she knew they'd always be supportive. She even had the balls to tell me that I should purposely get pregnant with Adam, because his family has money. Yeah. NO.

She is now in a 3 month relationship with some guy, and she just announced on facebook they are going to move in together. ?!?!? I think she is setting herself up for disaster and setting her kids up for dissapointment.

But it goes to show me that what she considers happiness is different than what I think. She is after the whole "husband". I don't so much need the husband part, as I need to "companionship, love, connection" part.

Not that I am unhappy, really. I am pretty good right now. But am I wrong, is it possible to lower your standards and still be happy? And not feel as if you are giving up, settling for less? Because I just don't know that I could do that, and be happy. This topic is consuming my brain right now. What are your thoughts??

In other, less thought provoking news -

I need to go to the mall. Bath and Body Works Wallflowers are on sale for $4. Time to stock up. I also have a $10 coupon I need to use at American Eagle.

I also want to stop at Barnes and Noble. Brody is fascinated right now about the earth, the sun and the moon. We watched the sun go down last night, and it was so amazing to watch him, he understood. He told me that now we are dark, but the people who live on the other side of those trees get the sun. So I am hoping to find some cool books that can really explain it to him better than I can. Maybe he'll be an astronaut someday! :)

and I'll leave you with a funny story. At least I think it's funny. Adam came over on Tuesday night, after golf league, like he usually does. It was late so I was already in bed, and I figured he was in the clubhouse. He showed up, a little too drunk for my liking and it didn't take him too long to fall asleep. About an hour later I woke up to a loud CRASH. HE FELL OUT OF BED.
At first I was worried about him, so I rolled him over and made sure he was okay.

He was still passed out, and so I tried to wake him up and get him up, but he YELLED at me to leave him alone. So I did. He slept on the floor. I also did not wake him up for work, which made him a good hour and a half late, and when I told him about him yelling at me, I really rubbed it in and made him feel bad. He still thinks I am, actually. I've been getting I'm so sorry texts all day yesterday and last night. Haha. He should know better by now.